Relationship Counselling

Marriage Guidance/Relationship Counselling with Daren De Witt

Locations:  Online,  Hastings & Central London

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Has your relationship hit troubled times?

Are you arguing frequently or not understanding one another?

Has an issue arisen that is painful or difficult for the two of you to deal with?

Are you feeling overwhelmed and in need of support?

You CAN work through these issues to a place of deeper connection and love in your marriage/relationship!

Read on for more information about relationship counselling.

If you would like support with anger that is manifesting in your relationship or other situations, then please contact Daren.

All relationships go through cycles.  Sometimes we have a strong sense of closeness, love and intimacy.  At other times we feel distant, disconnected, angry and resentful.  These cycles are natural.  When things go wrong we may think or be told that it is because we are with the wrong person.  However, it is more likely that our relationship is challenging us to work through the blocks within us and between us, to move to a deeper level of love and connection with one another.

Working through issues in relationships is not easy.  It often helps to get support from someone who understands the deeper patterns and dynamics of relationships.  Which is why it can be beneficial to seek relationship counselling/marriage guidance.  This is not an admittance of failure but a statement of intent – that you value your relationship and want to put the effort into it that it deserves!

“Working with Daren has breathed new life into my marriage – we were seriously considering divorce when we started working with him, and now we are in better shape than ever! With his help we have learned how to listen to each other better and to communicate more effectively.  Daren is endlessly patient, wise and compassionate, and he brilliantly models what he teaches.  I am so grateful to him and would recommend him without hesitation to any couple looking to re-connect with each other.” – Sarah D

“Thank you Daren for the session today, it was really useful.  I felt that I got the clarity I needed from the time you spent with me and it gave me a lot of food for thought.  I feel better afterwards.” – JW

“Thanks Daren, you gave me an enormous insight into what is going on in my relationship.” – EG

How and Why Daren Can Help You

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  • Daren is trained in relationship counselling, having completed a Diploma in Relationship Psychodynamics with the Centre for Gender Psychology.  So he understands the dynamics that occur in relationships and he can help you to understand what is happening in your own relationship.
  • Daren is a certifed trainer with, and UK representative of, the Centre for Nonviolent Communication, which specialises in empathic listening.  So he can help you to improve the quality of your listening to each other in your marriage or relationship.
  • Daren is a trained mediator, so if you are in conflict with each other, he can help you find your way through to mutual understanding and he can help you come to agreements that work for you both.  And your arguments won’t phase Daren!
  • As a male, Daren is well placed to understand and support men, who can be uncomfortable attending relationship counselling and can also be daunted at the thought of facing a female counsellor as well as their wife/partner!  Daren can also share his own experience of relationship, and the lessons he has learned through applying the principles he has learnt in his own relationship.
  • At the same time, through his training in empathic listening and in the principles of relationship communication, Daren is also well-placed to hear and understand women and help their partner to understand their perspective.
  • N.B. LGBT+ couples are also welcome.

 

Relationship Counselling – How will Daren work with you?

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  • First session: In our first session together, I will hear from you about the issues in your relationship that have brought you to relationship counselling/marriage guidance and begin to help you to gain some understanding about these issues.  From your side, you will both have a chance to see how I work with you, whether it is helpful for you, and whether both of you feel comfortable working with me.
  • Ongoing Sessions: If you feel comfortable with me and my approach, you may decide to continue with the sessions.  You are free to come to as many relationship counselling/marriage guidance sessions as you wish.  However, it can be helpful to think in terms of making a commitment to a block of 6 sessions.  You can view this as making a commitment to and investment in your relationship.  In this respect, relationships are no different from our work lives, where we need to commit to regular training and meetings if we want to make improvements!
  • Session length: Individual sessions are usually either 50 or 1 hour 20 mins in length.  I am open to longer sessions if that would suit your circumstances better.
  • Session Frequency: Many couples opt for fortnightly sessions, as this gives sufficient time for you to work on and explore material further before returning.  If you are in crisis and need more support we can meet more frequently.  After a course of 6 sessions, some couples choose to return monthly or bi-monthly, to help them maintain their relationship.

Locations and Availability

Online:.  Daren is currently seeing clients mainly online, using Zoom or other formats.  Daren has worked successfully online with both individuals and couples for many years and for many people it can be as effective as face to face sessions.

Hastings:  Daren currently has availability to see couples face to face in Hastings.

Central London:  Due to the impact of Covid19, Daren has suspended his face to face consultations with couples in central London.  He hopes to resume this service in the coming months.

Availability:  Daren sees couples from Wednesdays to Fridays between the hours of 10am and 8pm.  Contact Daren to discuss current availability.

Fees per session for Relationship counselling/Marriage guidance

Daren runs a sliding scale of fees, based on the combined gross income of the couple attending (whether married or not, or living together or not).  Current fees are outlined on the following table:

 

Annual combined
gross income

Monthly combined
gross income

Fee for 50
minute session

Fee for 1 hour & 20 min session

Fee for 1 hour & 50 min session

Less than £30,000

Less than £2,500

£70

£105

£140

£30,000 to £60,000

£2,500 to £5,000

£80

£120

£160

More than £60,000

More than £5,000

£90

£135

£180

If you are wanting a 1-to-1 session about your relationship (i.e. without your partner), fees are as follows:

Annual
gross income

Monthly
gross income

Fee for 50
minute session

Fee for 1 hour & 20 min session

Fee for 1 hour & 50 min session

Less than £30,000

Less than £2,500

£60

£90

£120

£30,000 to £50,000

£2,500 to £4,167

£70

£105

£140

More than £50,000

More than £4,167

£80

£120

£160

Deposit for your first session with Daren

After you have arranged your first appointment with Daren, to confirm your booking Daren may request that you pay a deposit of £30.  You can do so by clicking on the Make Payment button below. You can pay with Paypal if you have a Paypal account.  If you don’t have a Paypal account, after you have clicked ‘Make Payment’ follow the link ‘Check out for guests’ to pay with a debit or credit card.

This deposit is non-refundable if you cancel less than 74 hours (3 days & 2 hours) before your appointment, or if you do not turn up for the session.

Interested in Relationship Counselling?

If you would like to book a relationship counselling session or talk this over further, please contact Daren, by email, by filling in the form on the contact page of this website or by phoning Daren on 07366 444 634.

Daren’s Relationship Counselling/Marriage Guidance Skills

Daren brings many skills to this work.  He has completed a two-year specialist training in Couple Counselling and Relationship Psychotherapy, graduating with a Diploma in Creative Couplework with the Centre for Gender Psychology.  He has also studied the Voice Dialogue approach to relationships.  He has been practising and teaching Nonviolent Communication since the year 2000, and practising as a mediator since 1999.  In 2019 Daren completed four years training in Identity-oriented Psychotrauma Therapy (IoPT) which explores the origins of our patterns of relating (see the Identity Constellations Workshops page of this website for more information about this).